6 steps to turning a work buddy into a real-life friend

6 steps to turning a work buddy into a real-life friendMost people have two social groups in their lives the people you hang out with all day, every day, because you have to (coworkers) and the people you hang out with by choice when you find the free time (friends). Lots of people keep these spheres separate, so there are firm boundaries in place between work life and real life. But what happens when you meet someone at work who you just adore and want to become friends with beyond office pleasantries? googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) There are a lot of reasons its great to have a true pal and confident at work. Random just saying hi pop ins make your day go faster. You have a constant lunch or coffee break buddy. And work-wise, it can often mean a strong ally on your side. But negotiating the road to real friendship can be a tricky one. Heres how to do it.1. Be pickyfind someone you trust.You cant afford to lay it all out there for just anyone. Quality is much more important than quantity when it comes to office friendships. Shoot for one (or two) people who seem to have interests and life situations and values most in common with you.2. Dont rush the process.Dont jump right into the meaningful convos over margaritas stage, or the inviting people over for dinner with your family stage. Going from coworker to friend takes a gentle touchif things dont work out, you still need to see the person every day. abflug with a casual coffee or a lunch to test the waters. Is the conversation effortless? Do you feel comfortable, and can you tell whether your new pal-to-be feels comfortable as well?3. Go on a second date.Just because the first foray went well, make sure it wasnt just a fluke. Try aelendher lunch or casual coffee, or maybe a happy hour. If you pick up straight where you left off and it still feels breezy and fantastic to be in their company, then keep at it.4. Lead with what interests you.Dont just talk about wo rk. Start trying out conversations that have more to do with your outside life, interests, hobbies, and passions, and see how well you match up. To build a real friendship youll need to build shared memories, which is much easier to do when you have more in common than just where you go to work each day. Try not to gotoo personal too soon, thoughyou can bare your soul a few months down the line, not right after you find out whether or not someone has any siblings.5. Open up when you feel comfortable.When you feel like things are really moving along well, it might be time to let your hair down cautiously and share some more personal details. No oversharing Keep it relaxed and not too dramatic. Take your cues from your new friend, as well. Listen to what theyre talking about and try not to bulldoze through whatever boundaries they might be adhering to with big blockbuster confessions.6. Keep potential complications in mind.Having a work bestie or two can be great, but you should also be prepared for the occasional awkward situation. Say your friend gets promoted over you or starts to shoot up the ladder and youre still deckenfries at entry-level. How might you react? Try to foresee a few of these possibilities and ask yourself if youll be able to be genuinely happy for your friends success and not too competitive throughout the course of your careers. Will this friendship be strong enough to weather the ups and downs of your working world?

#MakingTime A Day in the Life of a Globetrotting Nonprofit Director

MakingTime A Day in the Life of a Globetrotting Nonprofit Director https//fairygodboss.com/career-topics/working-for-a-nonprofitWomen can do anything but leid everything. As the largest erreichbar career community for women, we atFairygodbossrealize that balance is a myth, and that picking what to prioritize on a day-to-day basis isnt always easy.In the MakingTime series, women share with us how, for one day, they chose to spend their most precious resurce time.--WhoShelleyCallahanWhatDirector of Development at Children Incorporated--600 amI wake up and get out of bed and start the coffee maker immediately before doing anything else. Either my husband or I get the coffee ready the night before so the only thing between us and a cup first thing in the a.m. is the press of a button.615 am I sit down and open my computer. I live on the West Coast and Children Incorporateds main office in on the East Coast, so it is really important to me to get my day started around the same time that my co-workers are sitting down at their desks as well.730 amI make breakfast with my husband before he goes to work. We stick to eggs and avocado as vegetarians, its light and easy to make and gives us a good protein punch in the morning so we both feel energized for the day. On this particular morning, he is taking over in the kitchen so I can finish up a few work emails.800 amMy husband leaves and I get back to the computer. My morning consists of completing a story about a recent trip to Brazil by one of our staff members for our On the Road blog series on our website, scheduling emails blasts that go out to our donors and supporters, and working on our completing content and design for our print communications. I have my cell phone and two computers in front of me at this point so I can communicate via Slack, email, our social media channels, and even get on a Skype call all at the same time. I love technology and how it allows us to multi-task it makes my job exciting 900 am Snack break. I always eat a banana mid-morning. If I forget to buy enough and we andrang out, I feel like my whole morning is thrown off. Today is thankfully not one of those days.910 amPhone call with our print materials provider, followed by a phone call with our web design gruppe, followed by a quick call with our Google Ad representative. I dont get to see many of the amazing people we work with in person because we all live in different places in the U.S., so short check-in calls every month or two are very valuable even if everything is going smoothly, getting to chat in person can sometimes bring on new, great ideas that would not have come up otherwise over strictly email communications.1000 amBreak to go on a run. There is a park two minutes away from my house where I can do a quick 25-minute loop and really clear my head while listening to music. Breaks are so crucial when you work a demanding job. Today the temperature is cool, and it is early enough in the day where the sun is not blaring down on me so I am able to keep a good pace and maintain my speed throughout. 1030 am.Admittedly, I dont shower right away after my run. I sit down again in front of the computer in my running gear and follow up on emails. By now, it is right after lunch on the East Coast, so it is time for the afternoon check- in to see what has developed in the office. I receive photos from our International Programs Director of children in the Philippines receiving free meals thanks to our International Feeding Program. I spend time editing the photos and creating content so that they can be shared on our social media platforms, as well as on our website. 1100 amThe rest of the day is dedicated to writing and more writing. Since Children Incorporated works in 23 countries, including the U.S., at 300 project sites with over 8,000 children, we have a lot of stories to tell and a lot of content to work with. I never get tired of writing stories about the work that we do and the impact that our donors have on children all over the world. Today, I am working on a story about children in Costa Rica who received mattresses last winter thanks to a fund we have set up when special needs arise in the communities we work in. Many of this childrne were sleeping on the floor before we were able to purchase mattresses for them.1230 pmI make a quick spinach salad with tomato, cannellini beans, onion, and olives. I dont like to eat a heavy lunch because I worry it will make me tired. Today, like most every day, I eat in front of my computer so my work isnt interrupted. 200 pmThe office is closed now on the East Coast, but the work day is not over for me I have a trip to Guatemala coming up in a few short weeks, so the afternoon is spent working on a video script. I will be traveling with our CEO to visit our projects in both Guatemala City and Antigua and while there, we will be working closely with a Guatemalan film crew that will be documenting our work. It is my res ponsibility to make sure our message is clear, the narrative is precise, and our call to action is accurate. We will only have three days to film in Guatemala, so making sure the team understands my vision for our video is essential.330 pmFinally, take that much-needed shower. 400 pmConference call with Guatemala film crew. We go over our schedule for the upcoming trip so that we make sure we utilize every moment we have together. They work for a local news team so I dont doubt that they wont be able to keep up with our hectic schedule. 530 pmStart making dinner for my husband and myself. This is one of my favorite parts of the day. I get to put my work away, listen to the news on the radio, and be creative with cooking. My husband says I am his favorite cook, so I never have to ask him what he wants ahead of time. I love surprising him with vegetable stir-fry or cauliflower buffalo wings or seitan tacos. We save a lot of money cooking at home every night too 615 pmMy husband comes home and we eat on the patio and catch up about how our work day went and other things we have going on who paid which bills and which families members we texted or talked with during our day. 700 pmWe always try to get a little exercise before the end of the day, but since we both work long hours, it is usually just a walk around the neighborhood nothing too strenuous. This is the time when we are both the least distracted and just get to chat about whatever we want. We are both so busy and need time where we arent on our phones or thinking about our next move and this is it.800 pmA quick trip to the grocery store for fresh produce. I love to focus on eating healthy, but it means going to the store multiple times during the work week. Luckily, we have three grocery stores within five minutes from our house, so it doesnt take much time to pop in and pick up a few items. 830 pmClean up the kitchen and wash our dirty dinner dishes, get tomorrow mornings coffee ready, and sit down o n the couch in the living room to watch the news. Although Children Incorporated is not an organization that has any political affiliation, what is going on in the world is relevant to our work in so many ways, so staying on top of current issues is beneficial when I am discussing with others the work that we do. 930 pmIn bed to read for a few minutes before falling asleep. I dont usually make it more than a few pages before I doze off so it takes me a long time to finish a book, but I have always been an avid reader, so I make sure I have a book on my nightstand at all times. Currently, I am reading Paul Farmers book, To Repair the World, which is a collection of speeches about global health equity and social justice. I highly recommend it. 1000 pm.Lights out. I am serious about getting eight hours of sleep. It keeps me at my best--About Children IncorporatedIn 1964, after personally witnessing the deprivation of children in Guatemala, Children Incorporateds founder, Jeanne Clarke Wood, established Children Incorporated out of her home in Richmond, Virginia. Mrs. Wood began writing letters to seek assistance for the 95 children she met on her travels these children formed the first Children Incorporated project. Thanks to past and current supporters around the globe, Children Incorporated now has over 300 projects which serve over 20,000 children annually. To date, over 300,000 children have been provided opportunities for growth and education, and have experienced the support and encouragement Children Incorporated provides.ShelleyCallahan, Director of Development at Children Incorporated, has traveled extensively across the U.S. and around the world reporting on the burden of poverty and working to support communities in need. She is truly an inspiring individual who lives out her passion day in and day out.From digging wells in Colombia, managing medical teams in Haiti, and reporting on the slums in Kenya and Ethiopia,Callahanhas helped thousands of impove rished children around the world.She started her career in the non-profit sector in 2006, when she co-founded Books on Wheels which provided free books to children living in low-income neighborhoods.After graduating with a Masters of Social Work from Virginia Commonwealth University in 2008, her desire for helping children grew steadily when she followed her interests on a global scale joiningChildren Incorporated, an organization that works with nearly 300 projects in 23 countries, including the United States. Children Incorporated partners with already-established schools, orphanages, homes, and childcare centers to address the specific needs of the children they serve toensure that every child enrolled in our program is provided with clothing, food, hygiene items, school supplies, and other educational tools.Callahans central point of the mission she shares with Children Incorporated is the life of charity isnt at all about realizing the potential of her own goodness, but simply a way to facilitate and magnify the generosity of others. She is also author of the book, The House of Life, and has written for numerous publications online and in print publications about her work within the non-profit sector.